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First Date Tips for Guys

How to not screw it up and instead make it the best first date ever!


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Be fun and playful! Don't be a robot, don't take yourself too seriously, joke with her, get photos together, talk about things that interest her, enjoy her company!
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Groom before going.
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Movies are a bad place for a first date because you can't talk to each other.
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Before you leave if you had a good time tell her.
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Don't buy her a gift.
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Have breath mints.
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Over-planning is bad, but make sure you have a general plan of things you two could get up to. If you have to ask "what do you want to do now?" you've probably not prepared well enough.
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Let her talk more than you.
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Don't make it an interview. Pretend she's an old friend and make statements rather than ask a bunch of questions.
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Don't go to a movie.
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Don't pretend to like things just because she does. If you like it too, great. If not, don't let it get you down or ruin the night.
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Under no circumstances does she need to hear about your wierd fetishes. If you want to shag her upside down in a bathtub full of peas, keep it to yourself. At least til the second date.
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You have to smile.
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Don't expect anything out of it.
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Just buy her dinner. Don't give trinkets on the first date.
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Dress nicely.
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Treat her like a good friend. Don't put her on a pedestal and don't do something so outlandish that you have to try to outdo next time.
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Confidence and a good sense of humour go a long way in making things less awkward. You know your doing it right if you are making her smile, giggle and sometimes laugh. It's not rocket science in Chinese, it's a date-and yes, grooming is very important (first impressions last)
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Girls are just as (if not way more) insecure than guys, whether they're 16 or 23. Keep an eye on her body language--if she seems to recoil from physical contact of any kind with you, she probably just wants to be your friend. Or, she digs you but has intimacy issues for whatever reason (whether it be past trauma or just inexperience), in which case things may be complicated and good luck. If she does things like playfully touch your arm, bumps into you accidentally-on-purpose or very casually, she's at least comfortable enough with you that she more than likely wouldn't flip out. She'll let you know if it's not OK. Just don't be a dick about it.
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Talk about some things that interest or inspire you. Having passion is just as important as having confidence. You could even talk about some vacation plans, or some other thing you haven't done.
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I won't tell you to be a nice guy on the date; after all, that term is so loaded it's nearly useless. But even if she turns out to be a bitch on this date, be a good man. Always be a good man. Be honest, reliable, and trustworthy. Even if this doesn't work for you now, you have no idea how well it will work for you in your twenties, thirties, and beyond--and even in the short term, the worst she'll be able to honestly say was that you didn't suit each other.
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Women respond when you respond to them.
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Use her body language as a guide for how close you should get. It's safe to get as physically close as you normally did before you asked her on a date, but beyond that, let her guide. Do not, I repeat, do not kiss her if you haven't hugged her beforehand and received positive results.
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Don't worry about silence. When you start worrying because nobody is talking, you get desperate and start panicking and coming up with odd things to talk about. Just let it happen.
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Clean your car.
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Don't put her on a pedestal, just be polite and treat her like a human being.
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Don't try to impress her, just act like you would with a close friend (minus dirty jokes).
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When you're in the room, be in the room.
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Put your hand in the small of her back when walking (not butt).
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If you had a great time and she's giving good vibes, kiss her.
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Don't force anything
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Confidence works.
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Have a joke ready.
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Go ahead and decide that the date is going to end with a hug. This takes all the pressure off of deciding whether to kiss or not.
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Don't order her food.
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Compliment her on how nice she looks and on something in particular (not her boobs).
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Treat her with respect.
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Concentrate. Focus.
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Listen and respond.
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Remember to blink.
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Open the door for her.
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Relax and have a good time.
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Make sure you can pay for everything, including soda and popcorn if she wants some at the movie. You asked her out, you invited her, you pay. Look up prices online to be sure you can.
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When you asked her on a date, you showed her that you're interested in her. Now you need to show her that you care, and that you do by listening.
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First dates are always awkward, just roll with everything even if something goes wrong.
Also remember girls get just as nervous and awkward on dates as guys! So don't let being shy/nervous or whatever scare you so much, I bet she feels the same way and don't let her nervousness or whatever bother you and think she doesn't like you!
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Don't go out with a "loaded gun".
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Just listen to her. That's the key.
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You need to genuinely be interested in what she has to say. From that point, everything follows easily.
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Just keep in mind this one thing: everyone has lived a life that is interesting in some way, and that forms a story that is worth listening to. Listen to that story, and try to understand it.
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Kiss: Since this is your first date ever, I'd probably wait. You don't want to have a great date then ruin it with an awkward kiss (and it most likely will be since you've never done it before). If things go really well, give her a hug at the end (a normal hug). Don't do the cheek or hand kiss.
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Listen!!!
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Just be normal and most importantly, don't stress about it.
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Also, listen to what she likes to do - from this you can propose a good activity for a second date. Preferably, this would be something active that will make it easy to talk.
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Look her in the eyes.
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Don't try to prove your worth.
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Don't interrupt her.
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Don't be afraid. Ever. Of anything.
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Wear deodorant.
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When you get to her house, don't text her. Knock on the door. Say hello and introduce yourself to her parents, and ask if she is ready to go. If they ask where you're planning on going, tell them where you will be. Best thing you can do is seem respectable and polite to her parents.
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Listening to a woman is the best way to make her feel special because it means you're treating her like a real person. You're showing her respect, which is the best gift that exists. If you say anything, be 100% honest. If you don't feel you can be honest, be silent. Do not be a jerk. You've probably seen that the jerky guys in your grade get all the girls, but how long do they keep them, and what to the girls think of them afterwards?
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Don't have too many expectations, and if things don't go perfectly, don't worry about it. If you do something stupid (trip over your feet, spill food), make a joke about it and laugh it off.
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Hand holding is fine, just try not to force it,you don't have to hold her hand every moment, a nice hand on her back leading her to the movie or to a table, or to what you want to show her in the store is cute or something like that.
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Don't (positively) comment on other girls, or even so much as look at another girl's legs/ass/hair/outfit/you-know when you're on a date, more than a glance. It's a trap. Pretend not to notice anything, even when asked. Women know that men can't help looking at other women and it makes them insecure. Never cop to it.
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Follow up the next afternoon saying you had a good time and want to do it again sometime.
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Ask a question or state an observation about her that you are genuinely interested about.
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Clean your bathroom
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When you're wondering what to say or how you look, just remember, she's already out with you. That means she said yes when she could have said no. That means she made a plan when she could have just blown you off. So that means it's no longer your job to make her like you. It's your job not to mess it up.
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There are also important things to consider about your clothes, your body language, your tone of voice, etc. But you're learning at this age, that will only overwhelm you.
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Holding hands: You can offer your hand to her while walking. If she accepts, then you're all set. If not, don't let it ruin the date. She's just not ready yet.
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Rub one out before you pick her up.
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Don't try and force conversation by asking a lot of questions, it will show you are nervous try and make it so it will end of being a discussion you both can relate to/comment on.
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Let her know what kind of a person you are, but don't bring out the full-on weird.
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A date is about saying something to get the girl talking, then responding with something that shows you paid attention, and that can keep her talking. Eventually that fizzles out, and you find a new topic, and repeat the process.
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Act as if you're having the time of your life and it has nothing to do with her.
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Don't rush hand-holding until it feels natural. You don't have to throw you jacket in a puddle for her; you MUST open the door for her. If things go well and you say you're going to call/test, do it.
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Pull her chair out.
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When going for a first kiss with someone,specially if its the first date, you should go for the cheek, maybe a hug after the kiss, and wait to see if she wants more(leaning closer,talking to you to get you to stay longer)
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Conversation slowing down? Triangulate. Find something around you, about the place you're at, separate from the two of you, and talk about it to find common ground. For sport, you can even make up stories about people on dates, store workers, whatever. Like this, "See that guy over there working behind the counter? He's afraid to tell anyone he's a huge Justin Bieber fan." "That couple over there, she's clearly his secretary." "How many of the people in this restaurant are actually vampires?" "I think that's the most boring piece of public art in the mall, it's no surprise the artist was an overmedicated sociopath." The point is just to start talking about something new, and you see where it can go.
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Joking teasing should be used with caution. When in doubt, don't!
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Just give her a kiss on the goodbye at the end of the date. Then walk off like it ain't no thang.
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