An uplist on how to build attraction and rapport with women you're interested in as well as how to act in situations with her.
Have confidence. If you are not confident, then act like it. Put yourself out there. There is no foolproof secret. It's something that gets easier with practice. So go out there and be or act confident. You won't get anywhere if you just sit there reading tips on your computer.
Eliminate any need for acceptance or approval - these are your enemies to success in the art of flirting.
Calibrate your energy level - meet high energy with high, and low energy with low.
Eye contact, but not in creepy unblinking stalker way.
Get body contact happening early. Ideas: playfully bumping, blocking and shoving. Stick things in her back pocket. Utilise when you're both laughing - this is the best time to make body contact. Move her about (e.g. out of the way of a bar tender). Get something out of her hair. Steal something so she chases you.
Don't do anything that conveys neediness or desperation. This is one of the biggest tips on flirting of all time.
If you are making a move physically and touching her, do not look where you are touching. This signals to her that you aren't seeking her approval.
Never use your own eye contact in attempt to get women to hold eye contact with you. She should be trying to get eye contact with you more than you are with her. To do this effectively, it shouldn't be something that you focus on too much. Remember, this is flirting, and it should be fun.
This isn't 20 questions. Don't ask a girl a question and then proceed by asking her a totally unrelated question when she answers. Keep the questions related to her answer. Base what you say off of her response. If you have trouble with this, pick a noun out of her response and
Eye contact is king when flirting - look at her.
Invade her space slightly (e.g.) poke her in the ribs / tickle. (Body Language is key in these flirting techniques.)
Touch her on upper arm when you both find something funny - releases oxytocin (love chemical).
Don't break the tension - don't apologise, say "just kidding", etc.
Look at her like she is up to no good.
Do the cheeky smile. Nonverbal communication is extremely powerful at generating attraction in women.
Don't lean in to her ear. Speak Louder. She can hear you. She will lean into you if she can't.
Don't follow her around the bar/club.
Don't care if she walks away from you.
Don't look for her if she goes to the toilet and doesn't come straight back to you.
Don't piss her off by being genuinely obnoxious or offensive. Remain playful at all times. Her throwing a drink at you is not one of the flirting signs we are looking for here.
Fake like she is annoying you (playfully).
Comment on people or couples around you. Try to guess their story. Have fun.
Dodge her questions that are boring.
Learn about "shit tests" and how to deal with them.
Compliment her on something non-physical. E.g. "You seem pretty confident, it's refreshing"
Tell her what to do. Examples: "Hold this a sec", "Come here", "Look at this", "Let's go over there, c'mon", "Check this out" and so on. You are leading her subtly, and by following what you say, she is accepting the frame. Compliance is her subtly acknowledging you as the leader, the dominant one.
Any time she displays even a hint of some kind of incompetence, exaggerate it, to the max. If she can't type on her phone, say something like, "My 6 year old cousin can txt better than you" If she mumbles or makes a mistake when talking, say something like, "I didn't know it was special needs night tonight." Smile when you say these things.
Don't say: Do you come here often? What's your sign? Can I buy you a drink? I love you. Will you be my girlfriend / go out with me? Would you like to dance?
Talk playfully and adventurously.
Flirting is an attitude: A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic and positive, it works!
When you are saying something funny, it's better to not seek eye contact. In this way it doesn't appear that you are looking for approval for your jokes.
When a woman is acting favorably to you, or you have a fun vibe happening, keep solid eye contact. In this way you reward her, and she will do more of what you like.
Don't ask random questions!
Fun Laughter Interesting Refreshing Teasing (use it to remind yourself when talking to girls!)
Start by touching her shoulder, arm, or hand.
Accuse her of trying to seduce you.
Lead the conversation, control the frame. You are the man, you are in charge. If she wants it, she?s got a big time battle on her hands (and more the better for the Sexual Tension).
Make out something she did disgusted you a little bit, "Gross, you just spat on me when you said that" The hotter the girl, the better it works.